I knew that being a mom and an aspiring floral designer would be hard. Well, motherhood these days is already quite difficult as it is. Juggling all the demands of being a mom and trying to still do our best in fulfilling our aspirations is all the more stressful and taxing. Juggling a new business and motherhood can be a real challenge. I know I really want to do it, but I also know it will be hard and that I need all the good advice I could find. So I turned to the ones that have been doing it for years now, and see how they manage to do it. Below are some of the tips I found that helped me in making up my mind and gave me hope.
Involve your spouse
Don’t forget to involve your supportive husband in the game. Ask them to help you with whatever you might need help with, I believe they’ll be as supportive as mine is. Involve them in taking care of the kids from the very beginning, best way to do this is to involve them with feeding when your kid is really small so they can get used to it from early days.
One other thing they can help you with is those middle-of-the-night wake-up calls, you have no idea how much more energetic and relaxed at work one can be the following day! Come up with a plan that will equally involve the both of you, so each of you will have some energy left for working the next day.
Plan everything to the smallest details, sit down and talk about it, if you both get organised and involved equally it will be so much easier for everyone!
Know your priorities
It’s hard, but you’ll have to get used to it, things will not be the same. Being a hardworking professional and a mom at the same time means that something’s got to give. This means that sometimes you simply won’t have the time to tidy up the house, or make a perfect dinner. So, do yourself a favor and let it go, it really is OK. Prioritise what you can live with and what you can’t. Can you live a few days more with the kitchen floor not perfectly clean? Of course you can! It’s totally worth it. Also, understand that your health is of priority! Recently, I had pink eye (if you’re wondering how do you get pink eye, read here) and it was really difficult to make myself rest but I just had to!
Make time for yourself
Maybe you won’t manage to do it at the very beginning, but once you get into the working routine you should find a way to make some time for yourself. Ask your husband or a nanny to take care of the kids while you go out for a coffee or to the gym, you need to refill your batteries from time to time!
Realize this is temporary
It will only get better. Every working mom will tell you how the first month was the most challenging one, but after some time it will get better, you’ll get used to it. You’ll start realising that your kid is happy and still feels loved when you’re not attached to it 24/7.
I found a lot of useful and interesting tips in this article.
Cut yourself some slack
A lot of moms out there feel guilty that they chose to work, and so little fathers feel the same. Don’t forget that choosing to work will make you happier and every kid with a happy mother will be happier itself. Also, don’t forget that by you working, your kid will be able to enjoy a better life with more opportunities.
It’s not easy, actually it’s really difficult. But a lot of moms have done it, and there’s no reason you or I can’t do it to. Talk to moms that work, ask for advice and come up with a survival plan. I hope that in a way, I can help to inspire other moms. That’s what I want to talk about on this blog too. I want to be authentic and share my experience, my journey, my ups and downs. I dislike blogs that just present everything as perfection because I think that is unrealistic.